Kind My 2019 Word of the YearIt’s been a few years since I’ve chosen a word for the year, and I thought this year would be another wordless one. But then, my word found me.

I went for a run on New Year’s Day. Running is one of my favorite things to do, in part because it’s a time when my mind wanders and ultimately clears. Ahhh. (Don’t you just love a clear mind?)

Well, in that clear-headed moment during my New Year’s Day run, my word came to me. Kind, I thought. I should make kindness my theme for the year.

And just like that, my word was born.

Kind is a word that has so much possibility when it comes to guiding my thoughts and decisions for the year. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that I think I have a kindness problem that needs to be fixed. It’s that I feel the world, in general, could use a lot more kindness – self-kindness, kindness to others, and kindness to the world at large.

For January (and perhaps even longer), I want to focus on self-kindness. Here’s why: I firmly believe that we can’t give to someone else that which we don’t have. So if we aren’t filled to the brim with self-kindness, how can we be truly kind to anyone else? If we’re constantly filling our heads with negative self-talk, judgment, and criticism, what’s on the tip of our tongues when a loved one walks in the room?

Filing ourselves full of self-hate and then expecting to be kind and loving to others is like filling a jar with marbles and expecting to reach into that jar and pull out a dollar bill. It’s not going to happen.

If we aren’t being kind to ourselves, our jars aren’t full of kindness.

So how do we do it? What is self-kindness? That’s what I’m going to be exploring in the weeks ahead, but here are some initial thoughts.

2019 Word of the Year Is Kind

Self-kindness is…

  • Filling your mind with loving thoughts and messages. In other words, it’s treating yourself like you treat your best friend.
  • Filling your body with healthy food and cutting back on anything that makes you feel bad, like sugar, alcohol, carbs etc.
  • Accepting yourself as you are right now (at this jean size and with this many wrinkles and with that much clutter.)
  • Letting go of perfectionism.
  • Saying no when you mean no and saying yes when you mean yes. (even if the opportunity scares you!)
  • Giving yourself space for the people and activities that give your life joy and purpose, while also giving yourself the gift of rest and relaxation.
  • Tuning into what you need and having the courage to honor it.
  • Alleviating the stressors in your life that are in your control.

It’s interesting that as I write this list, it’s surprising me! I thought I’d have a list of things like take a bubble bath, go for a walk, and get a manicure. But as I’m writing, I’m realizing self-kindness is bigger than that. It feels like it’s about loving and accepting yourself as you are and then honoring what that means.

And so the journey begins! I’ll let you know how it goes.

Do you have a word for 2019? I’d love to hear all about it in the comments.

Thanks for sharing!


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Aby Garvey is a creative organizing expert and simplify 101’s founder. She has created 14 online organizing classes, which she has been teaching since 2007, helping thousands of people around the world get organized. Aby loves to help people create positive change in their lives through her online classes and organizing eBooks.

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