This past weekend Kailea, my daughter, achieved a goal. It is a goal she has been working toward for nearly half of her life. This past weekend Kailea tested for, and received, her black belt in Tae Kwon Do. I am, of course, a proud (and biased) parent, but her performance throughout the five hour test was simply extraordinary.

The test is designed to challenge the body, mind and spirit. And the final test was the greatest challenge of all. The challenge:  break a concrete brick with your bare hand.

Throughout the years leading up to this test, we knew Kailea would have to face this challenge. My sincere hope was simple:  please don’t break any bones.

It really never occurred to me that she might actually be able to break a brick with her hand. I have only seen one other person accomplish this challenge. I thought it was a fluke. Turns out, it wasn’t.

On Saturday, Kailea met her final black belt challenge head on. She got up, found her focus, and broke the concrete brick in half with her bare hand. Just like that! Mission accomplished.

I was literally in awe.

I asked her about it after the test, and she admitted that going into it she didn’t think she would be able to do it. So, it wasn’t belief that allowed her to break the brick. What was it?

Clearly, years of training went into this final feat. She has broken dozens and dozens of boards with her hands and feet, so she definitely has “breaking skills” in her bag of tricks. But…this was a concrete brick, not a wooden board. This was different.

So how did she do it?

After seeing it happen with my own eyes, I wasn’t sure. So I kept watching the video, over and over again. Finally it struck me: she simply decided to do it.

She didn’t know how. She wasn’t even sure if she could. But when she got up there and stood in front of the brick, she decided “I’m going to do this.” And she did.

To me (the proud and biased Mom) this is a powerful lesson. How often do we shy away from something simply because we don’t know how to do it, or because we aren’t sure if we can do it?

And what if next time…we simply decide to do it?

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What will you decide to do today? Please share with me below. I look forward to hearing from you. 


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Aby Garvey is a creative organizing expert and simplify 101’s founder. She has created 14 online organizing classes, which she has been teaching since 2007, helping thousands of people around the world get organized. Aby loves to help people create positive change in their lives through her online classes and organizing eBooks.

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